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Looking
for a Therapist- making the most of your appointments
Therapy
is a collaborative process, so finding the right match-someone
with whom you have a sense of rapport-is critical. After you
find someone, keep in mind that therapy is work and sometimes
can be painful. However, it also can be rewarding and life
changing.
Before
going to a therapist
Arriving prepared for your first therapy session
is helpful. Spend some time thinking about your situation and
expectations. Here are some tips to think about before seeing a
new therapist. I suggest spending some time alone to think about
the questions below. Though not a necessity, your therapist
should help you explore the questions. Think about the problem
in detail. How does this problem affect you?
Are there things a therapist might do that would
prevent you from working constructively with them?
What qualities would you like to see in your therapist? Are
there qualities that would help you during therapy?
Are there any unacceptable forms of treatment? If yes, what are
they? Are there any treatment forms you strongly believe in? What
are they?
Do you have any special concerns when looking for a therapist?
If yes, what are they?
Have you had any previous bad experiences from mental health
professionals? If yes, what are they? How did they affect you?
What lessons did you learn from those experiences?
Have you had any good experiences with mental health
professionals? If yes, what are they? How have they affected
you? What lessons did you learn from those experiences?
Have specific questions before meeting your new therapist.
Meeting a therapist for the first time can be a difficult
experience and most people find it helpful to have their
questions ready.
Therapists have different certifications and educations.
Therapists at least have a MA or MSc in Psychology. Many
therapists have PhDs or plan on getting them. I believe having a
good feeling about your therapist is more important than whether
or not they have a PhD. Knowing your therapist's background and
education is important.
Visiting
your therapist the first time.
Remember,
you hire your therapist. You can fire your therapist if you feel
you cannot work with this person for any reason. Your first
meeting should be partially viewed as the therapist's job
interview.
Here are some suggested questions to ask a potential therapist
when meeting them for the first time. Please add or subtract any
questions as they fit your comfort level. What are his or her
credentials? Where did they get their education? Where have they
worked before? What is their job related experience?
Does this person have any experience working with people with
your specific issues?
What treatment methods does this person use?
How do you arrange payment with this person?
When and how often do you meet?
In case of emergencies, how can you reach your therapist? What
do emergency calls cost? What are this therapist's rules and
boundaries in emergency situations?
If you have any specific treatment forms which you especially
like or dislike, ask how the therapist uses these forms.
If you are seeking help for anything controversial within
psychology, such as DID, False Memories, ADHD, or other mental
health issues of controversy, ask your prospective therapist
where they stand on those issues.
Any other questions you feel would be important to ask your
therapist to help you feel comfortable seeing him or her.
Examples of questions the therapist might ask you during the
first meeting.
Points
to ponder after the first meeting.
Is
this a person you can come to trust given the time and
opportunity?
Can you talk freely?
Did you feel this person genuinely cares about you?
Again, remember, you hire a therapist, and you can fire a
therapist. This is about working through your difficulties, and
it is important you feel comfortable.
Lacap
does not have therapists who have not gone through
training. They sometimes present their therapy
under a religious or spiritual umbrella. Most of these
therapies, such as rebirthing, integrated breathwork, and
certain meditation practices, are very controversial. For some,
even hypnosis can be controversial. Other forms of therapy still
being tested by the psychology community have not been accepted
as mainstream. It is important to carefully consider your needs
before accepting such a therapy, and realize that there are no
safeguards, should something go wrong. Untrained therapists are
not necessarily trained in ethics. Nor do you have any legal
recourse if the treatment goes wrong, or makes you feel worse
than when you started therapy. If you choose a controversial
therapy, thoroughly research its pros and cons. Listening to the
therapy's detractors is often as illuminating as listening to
the supporters. If you choose an unlicensed therapist, take
extra care in finding one. During the therapy, continue to check
that you are reaching your original goals. |